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Rules for married men

on May 22, 2010

As I have mentioned before, my father passed away when I was 14 and he was 44. What I wouldn’t give to find a shoebox full of notes, stories and advice from him now. This blog is that shoebox for Clayton. As I continue to add to it I hope everyone (including myself) can learn a thing or two!

Here are a few rules that I think help a married man stay married.

  1. Hold hands – Hold her hand… often! And if you ever lose your hands, hold elbows!
  2. Lend a hand – When your married, you’re a team. To be an unbeatable team, play together AND work together. Your not above doing windows or dishes.
  3. Counseling – Everyone, yes EVERYONE should go to marriage counseling because marriage is hard. If your car is having problems you take it to the mechanic and if you keep it long enough it will have problems. The same is true of marriage.
  4. Surprise her – Do something nice for your wife, no less than once a week. If you have to put it on a calendar or if you have to tattoo it on your forehead, make it happen. Your life will be longer and happier for it!
  5. Apologize – Be the first to say “I am sorry” or “I was wrong”. You will be a bigger and better man for it and it is a good investment in your marriage.
  6. Remind yourself why you love her – Marriage is a choice you make everyday, not just at the altar. Once in a while, it’s important to remind yourself why you chose her and why you still choose her.
  7. Don’t try to change her – Every new husband thinks he can change his wife. Every experienced husband wishes he could have back all the time and energy he spent trying to do so.
  8. Work at your marriage – Marriage isn’t a noun it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get, it’s something you do. It’s the way you love your wife EVERYDAY. It’s the most important and most rewarding job you will ever have.
  9. Give her a hug – Hug her. They dig that. Real men hug!
  10. She is your partner – She is not property. She is a lady, she likes to be treated like one.
  11. Fight Fair – When you fight and you will, fight fair. The causes of a quarrel will soon fade, but cruel words will set in for years to come.
  12. Remember what is most important – Put God first then put her above all others. This includes your parents, your children and yourself. One of the best ways to show your children you love them is to love their Mother. Tell them how much you love their mother

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